What to Do When Your Boyfriend's Family Doesn't Like You

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1    Listen to the words and expressions and repeat them after the speaker.

to exist fed upwards with smb / smth — быть сытым по горло кем-либо / чем-либо
to lecture smb — читать нотации кому-либо
to be а loser — быть неудачником
to be cool with smth — воспринимать что-либо спокойно
to reach a compromise — достигнуть компромисса
to be grateful / ungrateful to smb for smth — быть благодарным кому-либо за что-либо
to deserve smth — заслуживать чего-либо
Information technology occured to me.— Мне пришло в голову.

2    Express the same thought in a different manner. Use the expressions below.

to be fed up with smb, to lecture smb, to reach a compromise, to leave smb lonely, to pay attention to smb, It didn't occur to me, to embarrass, to be mad with smb, to exercise chores

i.    Some boys at school are ignoring me.
2.    I never thought near it before.
three.    My parents oft nag me about my friends.
four.    Nosotros talked about it only we couldn't agree.
five.    My sister's behaviour made me experience uncomfortable.
six.    My parents are very aroused because I was late once again.
7.    I want my parents to leave me alone.
8.    I don't want to practise any housework. It'southward a waste of time.
nine.    I've had enough of my older brother.

3    John has written well-nigh his problem to his favourite magazine. They published his letter, but they didn't respond information technology. The magazine wanted the readers to respond John'due south letter. Read through the messages in Ex. 4 and find John's. What does he practice on Fridays?

iv    Now read the other teenagers' letters in detail. What exercise teenagers complain about? Give each letter a suitable heading.

i. I'g fed upward with my parents. They always tell me what to do but they never listen to me. All they want to know is whether I've done my homework and chores. When I want to talk to them, Mom tells me to get and ask Dad, and Dad tells me to go and enquire Mom. They give me plenty pocket money and buy me overnice dress, but I'd like them to pay me more than attention. They're never there for me. Help!

two.    My parents control my life. When I make a new friend, they want me to bring him or her to our flat straightaway. If I desire to go to a party, they lecture me for days nearly how I should acquit and when I should come domicile. Even if I promise to come abode by nine, they yet phone me every 60 minutes to cheque where I am. They embarrass me in front of my friends. When my phone rings, my friends know exactly who it is and call me a mommy's boy. What should I practice? I don't want to disobey my parents, but maybe I should? How do I explain to my parents that I'm 15, and they shouldn't treat me like a kid?

3.    My parents want me to become to university and make a lot of coin. They have a strict programme, which I have to follow. They make me stay at dwelling house and study all the time. At weekends my friends go to clubs or to the shops, but I tin can't get out. I have to study. When I try to tell my parents that I'd like to spend some fourth dimension with my friends, they refuse to mind. They say that all my friends are losers. I understand that they desire the all-time for me but they have to understand: I want to live my own life and make my own choices. They expect me to earn a lot of money, just at that place'southward more to life than that, isn't at that place?

4.    My mom is commonly absurd with most of the things that I do. She understands that I need my own infinite. She has nothing against make-upward and she likes all my friends. Last month I introduced my young man to her and she was great. My boyfriend was really impressed. The just problem I accept with her is when I desire to come up dwelling house late. All my friends go to clubs and stay out until x thirty, but I have to be home past nine o'clock, then I miss all the fun. If I'm ten minutes tardily, she gets mad with me and nags me for days later on that, what can I practice?

five.    All of my friends get a lot of pocket coin and spend it on anything they want. Merely my parents are against pocket money. They buy me fashionable apparel and other things that I need, but they decline to give me any coin. The situation is very embarrassing.

So I decided to earn my own money. I found an evening job, but my parents were confronting information technology. They said I had to study and do sports afterward school and non piece of work in the evening. That's fine, but I'm nearly fifteen and I'd like to me more contained. And so I started work in our local McDonald'southward. I worked on Friday evenings and told my parents that I'd been at the disco. Everything went fine until one 24-hour interval I came abode late.

One of the other workers at the restaurant was ill and I had to do his job for him. I was very busy with the customers, so I couldn't phone either. My parents were very aroused, just I promised not to be late again. Unfortunately, on the Fri after that something happened again, so I was tardily again. At present my parents are very angry with me. They don't allow me out any more. What should I practise?

5 Sometimes both teenagers and their parents ship letters about their problems to the same magazines. Read through the letters from the parents and match them with the letters from their children.

a)    I attempt to respect my girl'due south views, tastes and friends, but there are some things that I tin't concord with her about. If she leaves the house,
I have to know where she is and when she'll be back home. In my time, streets and parks used to be safe places, but nowadays they aren't any more. The newspapers and TV are full of terrible stories about kidnapping. So every time my daughter comes home late, I worry. I endeavour to talk to her about information technology, but she doesn't understand.

b)    We call up our son is angry with usa. We're both working and have a very active lifestyle. We spend a lot of fourth dimension at work and sometimes we are decorated at weekends too. Our son is very of import to u.s.. We think he should grow upward to exist independent, then sometimes we leave him
to make his own decisions. Of course, we practise everything for him and e'er buy him what he wants, but he looks always unhappy. We don't know what to do.

c)    Our son is very clever merely he's not ambitious plenty. He has to work hard if he wants to get a skilful education and have a successful career, only instead he wastes his time with his friends who couldn't care less nearly studies and school. All they want is to enjoy themselves and have fun. It's obvious that they will never achieve annihilation in life, but our son is different.

Since the day he was born, we've given him all our attention. Nosotros wanted him to have a improve life and achieve more than we have. All these years we have been saving money to pay for him to get to university and we think he should be grateful for that.

d)Our son is the centre of our life and we try to practise things together with him. We trust our son, but he'southward so immature and he doesn't have any feel well-nigh life. We try to requite him advice nigh how to carry and how to brand friends, but he reacts negatively to this.
He says that all his friends laugh at him because we phone him and then oft on his mobile phone, but it's important for us to know where our son is. It drives the states mad when we think about what could happen to him. We also think it's nice to let our son know that nosotros recollect and worry near him.

6 Parents and their teenage children often use different words and expressions when they talk about the aforementioned things. Use the parents' and the teenagers' letters to fill in the table.

Children	Parents
	Our son is angry with us.
They're never there for me.
My parents control my life.	We try to do things together with him.
They lecture me for days about how I should comport.
They embarrass me in front end of my friends.
My parents desire me to go to university and brand a lot of coin.
	All they desire is to enjoy themselves and take fun.
They say that all my friends are losers.
	I attempt to respect my daughter'due south views, tastes and friends.
	There are some things that I can't agree with her most.
She gets mad with me.
She nags me for days after that.

7 Compare the pairs of letters again and write a summary of each problem. Use the complex object.

Model:In the kickoff letter the boy wants his parents to pay more attending to him. The parents want the boy to grow

           up to be independent.

8 Respond the questions about John'due south letter and analyse the conflicts. (See Ex. 4, Lesson 1).

1.    Do you think the parents know about their teenager'due south problems?
ii.    Practice you think the teenager knows about the parents' problems?
3.    Is a compromise possible?
4.    What kind of compromise would you suggest?
5.    Can the parents change their behaviour? What should they do?
6.    Can the teenager modify his / her behaviour? What should he / she do?

Conversation bricks

Don't fire your bridges

Don't only expect your parents to understand you. If they don't, it could be your fault. It's very of import to learn to communicate finer. Hither are some phrases that we frequently utilize in arguments.

9 Mind to the expressions and repeat them after the speaker. Discuss which phrases would help to build bridges in a conversation? Which phrases would burn bridges?

1.    "You don't need to know about that."
2.    "What do you think about it?"
3.    "Would you similar to talk virtually it?"
iv.    "I'thou fed up with..."
5.    "You always say that!"
6.    "That's a proficient question."
vii.    "I couldn't care less!"
eight.    "Give thanks yous for proverb that."
9.    "Why are you asking me that?"
ten.    "I tin sympathize that, only..."
11.    Go and clean your room. We need to talk about something important.
12.    "If you lot say that again, I'll..."
thirteen.    "Your feelings are important to me."
14.    "You never..."
15.    "It didn't occur to me."
sixteen.    "Delight explain it to me again."
17.    "Go and ask your father / mother."
18.    "What I'one thousand saying is very important to me."
xix.    "Yous're telling lies."
xx.    "I deserve it because..."
21.    "Yous'll understand that when you're older."
22.    "That's none of your business."
23.    "When you practice / say that, it really upsets me / makes me feel angry.'
24.    "I think I take overreacted."

x John has decided to talk to his parents. Mind to the first conversation. Did they reach a compromise? Why? / Why not?

eleven Read the second conversation and reply the questions.

1.    Did they reach a compromise?
2.    What was the compromise?
3.    What span builders did John and his parents use?
iv.    Did they use any span burners? Did it ruin everything? Why? / Why non?
five.    How should 1 react to bridge burners? How shouldn't i react to span burners?

Mom:    Why don't we just sit downwardly and talk?
Dad:     OK. That's a practiced idea. I retrieve I've overreacted. Then what was information technology virtually the pocket coin so?
John:    Well, let me start by saying that this is very important to me. I take to admit that I lied to you considering I didn't know what to do.
Dad:     What happened?
John:    Y'all didn't give me any pocket money and you didn't let me accept a job either. So I decided to find myself a role-time job.

            All this time I've been working in  McDonald'southward, and on Fridays they e'er have a lot of customers. That's why I was late.
Mom:    But that's awful. Working in McDonald'south is a waste material of fourth dimension!
John:     Mom, please. It actually upsets me when you say that.
Mom:     Yous're correct. I'm sorry. Just why did you do that?
John:     Because I wanted to have my own coin.
Dad:      But we buy everything yous need. What oasis't yous got?
John:    I didn't want to ask you for money every time I needed something.
Dad:     I sympathise that, but nosotros've never refused to give it to y'all.
John:    Yeah, simply I wanted to be more independent. It's important for me to brand my own decisions and plan how I'll spend my money.
Dad:     That didn't occur to me before.
Mom:    Your feelings are very important to us, simply what almost schoolhouse? You've had a lot of bad marks in the last couple of months.
Dad:     Aye, it'southward really not good enough.
John:    Please give me a 2nd chance I really deserve information technology. I've never had bad marks earlier... you know that.
Dad:    I think we tin reach a compromise. You can work three evenings a week - on Friday. Saturday and Sunday. What do you call back?
John:   That's smashing. Dad! And I will go better marks. I promise.

Homework

A a) Sometimes people get upset with each other non because of the words, but because of the meaning behind the words. Read the phrases and respond the questions.

1.    Which of the phrases do yous hear from your parents most?
2.    Do y'all hold with the significant of the phrases?
iii.    If yous don't, what do they mean when your parents say them?

What parents say	What they really mean

1.    Are you going to wear that for your grandma's altogether party? — We're not letting you leave this room in those clothes!
ii.    How was your day today? — Did y'all practise anything bad today?
3.    Go and clean your room.— We need to talk about something important.
4.    Have you done your homework yet? — When you are non decorated with anything, information technology gets on our nerves.
5.    Who's the male child (girl) who phoned you? — We'd like to meet him (her), and talk to his (her) parents before yous get out together.
half-dozen.    Your friend Kate is really overnice.— I can't stand your friend Mary.
vii.    We got a call from the school today.— Are the teachers going to complain about you once more?
eight.    Volition your friends' parents exist at home? — Practise you really wait us to get to slumber before you're dorsum dwelling?
9.    Whose plow is information technology to do the dishes? — Information technology's your turn to do the dishes.
ten.    How much did y'all pay for that?! — You'll get no pocket money this week. You'll sympathize when you lot're older.— Nosotros don't know how to explain this to you.
11.    We expect you to get good marks in your exams.— You should written report for your exams instead of having fun with your friends.
12.    Exercise yous really retrieve that suits you? — We call back information technology looks atrocious.
13.    Do y'all think money grows on copse? — Get a part-time job.
14.    Shouldn't your school report be here by now? — Where have y'all subconscious it?
fifteen.    Exist prissy to your little sister (blood brother).— One more fight and we'll go crazy.
16.    We know that yous're a good male child / girl and would never do anything bad.— We don't trust y'all at all.

b) Write your ain pairs of phrases from your ain family or your friend'due south family unit.

В Fill in the gaps in the conversation with your own phrases. You can also use phrases from the Conversation bricks.

Girl:    Mom, I'd like to talk to you well-nigh the party tomorrow.
Mom:    I think nosotros've already discussed that and the answer is "No".
Daughter:    ...
Mom:    What makes y'all think that yous deserve to go?
Girl:    ...
Mom:    Well, that'due south all very prissy, but I've already told you that you can't go this week. If you behave yourself, I'll let you go next fourth dimension.
Girl:    ...
Mom:    Well, I actually don't know. Go and inquire your begetter then.
Girl:    ...
Mom:    ...Y'all'll sympathise when yous're older.

С Write virtually any problem that you or one of your friends / relatives had with their parents. How was the problem solved?

Your results

ane Gena the crocodile

He looks very strict and cold. He wears suits and always does everything perfectly. He doesn't understand y'all very well. If you similar something, he doesn't; he can't stand some of your friends and they're afraid of him. He ever wants you to achieve more and get better marks. Secretly, he'south proud of you and will practice anything for you. Sometimes you lot feel like you come up from different planets, but one solar day you'll find out that he is your most reliable friend and y'all're not so dissimilar.

two Matroskin the cat

Your father has both feet on the ground. He sometimes doesn't have enough time for you, but when he does, y'all always practice something interesting and fun together. He knows how to practise a lot of useful things and is e'er glad to show you. Simply listen to his advice and you'll never get into trouble. He always knows what to practice and yous tin feel prophylactic with him past your side.

iii Carlson who lives on the roof

Deep within your father is yet a male child who is always ready for adventure. He has a lively imagination and knows hundreds of different games. All your friends think he's peachy. He always has a lot of interesting and heady ideas, and he is often the first to break the rules. He sometimes gets into problem, but with a friend like you he doesn't take to worry. So don't get upset if sometimes he flies away and you lot have to look by the window. He'll always come dorsum.

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